Part 4 of series: How to Get What You Want
#4: Allow yourself some you time.
Have you ever heard someone say with disgust, “Aw, he’s just looking out for numero uno”? Typically this references a guy who is just out to serve himself and doesn’t care much about those around him; but he may be the smart one!
I have quite a few bad habits I am working to break. One of these is giving so much to others that I don’t allow time to get refueled myself.
Imagine this: You are about to go on a cross country road trip you have been planning for months. You fuel up, purchase a Diet Coke and Snickers, dial in your iPod to your road trip playlist and start crankin’ Starship’s hit “We Built this City.” You are ready to rock and roll. You make a few quick turns and soon you are on the highway. Yehaw! Not even five miles into your trip, you see someone on the side of the road standing next to an idle car. As you get closer, you realize, “Hey, that’s Uncle Bob! I better stop and see if he needs help.” You pull over and after a moment of discussion, you find that Uncle Bob ran out of gas. You offer to give him some of yours to help him get on his way. Fifteen minutes later you are back on the road again. Then, not even ten miles further and you spot another car parked along the side of the road. This time it’s your neighbor, Gary. He has a flat tire. Thankfully, you have the tools in your vehicle to help him get his spare installed. Gary is appreciative and offers to treat you to lunch at the next exit. You know you have a road trip planned, but Gary insists, so you oblige him. These road trip interruptions progress and you continue to give your resources until soon you are out of gas, money, food and energy! What good is a car if it doesn’t have gas!
To be successful, we need to be sure we are filling our own tanks and creating boundaries for ourselves. I am not saying to never help another person again, but to be aware of how much you give to others. We need gas to function properly. My gas comes from grabbing coffee at Starbucks with my friend Shelbe or sitting alone in my reading room with a fall scent candle burning and sipping hot tea. Sometimes my gas comes from breaking out into a jig in my bedroom. Whatever it is, make sure you are staying fueled. It’s okay to be selfish and look out for numero uno.