Crazymakers love drama. They also love being the star. Everyone surrounding them ends up functioning as the supporting cast, taking orders at the whim of this shining star. They expect special treatment and discount your own reality. In their world, nothing is their fault.
Below are some conversations you may have with a Crazymaker:
Crazymaker: I’m at the airport and need you to pick me up.
You: I can’t. It’s the middle of the workday and I am working.
Crazymaker: Puhleeeease? I didn’t bring any taxi money! You don’t want me to sit here in the airport alone all day, do you?
You: Fine. I’ll come get you.
Crayzmaker: Hey, can I borrow your camping gear? I’m leaving for a camping trip tomorrow morning and I don’t have a tent or sleeping bag. (It’s 11:00 P.M.)
You: And you’re telling me now? I’d have to dig the gear out of the shed…
Crazymaker: Sweet! I’ll be over in 5 minutes to pick them up. But I only have 5 minutes. My favorite Happy Days re-run is about to come on and I am not going to miss it. Have it ready when I get there… ::click::
Okay, by now you probably have a few specific people in mind. I know I do. I also can admit I’ve been a Crazymaker myself. I’ve been this way to one of my coworkers, to my dad, my sister and even to my own husband.
Now that you have identified the Crazymakers in your life, here is what you can do about it:
If you are dealing with a Crazymaker: STOP. First you must admit this fact. Admit that you are being used. They are a block between where you are now and the life you want to live. Set up boundaries for yourself. It is okay to tell someone “no.” They may kick and scream and pout, but you need to be true to yourself.
If you are the Crazymaker: STOP. Realize how you are showing up in other peoples’ lives. Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on their part. Be aware of your behavior and requests. If you put a little more effort into your own life, you may be surprised by how willing others are to help.
This topic and most of this information was pulled from Julia Cameron’s book, The Artist’s Way.)