Everybody Loves a Cruise

I met Josh and Sarah Gordon @ thenonconformistfamily.com through mutual friends. Although I have yet to meet these amazing Canadian peeps in person, we have connected on a deep level. Josh and Sarah directly and indirectly challenge me to look at my life and continually ask, “Is this really the life I want to be living?” If it’s not, then why I am still doing it?

I asked Josh to post on Perspective and this is what he had to say.

The Nonconformist Family (Josh, Sarah, Piper and Vienna)

If you’re like me, you’ve never been on a cruise, but you’ve imagined it plenty of times!

I close my eyes and I’m there, amidst a gently rolling expanse of ocean, warm and salty sun on my face, delicious spreads of food, lots of cool people, stimulating wide ranging conversations, and free time to think and journal…

Sounds pretty awesome right? Now, what if you signed up for a cruise, expecting a similar experience, but darn it! The food sucks! The scrambled eggs are a cold. The pancakes? Gosh, there’s no maple syrup for ‘em! Pineapples and the fruit spread you’re craving are nowhere to be found… and don’t even get started on the coffee. It was probably brewed a week ago, and has been microwaved so many times you can smell the radiation.

And despite all your expectations, you have to share your room! That’s crap, man. Your roommate is hairy and snores a lot. To top it all off, the weather sucks, the deck of the ship doesn’t have nearly enough deck chairs, and you can’t for the life of you find out where to play shuffleboard. Wow. What a horrible cruise experience.

The thing is, you’re NOT on a cruise ship.
You’re on the USS Nevada, a 27 000 ton warship in 1943.

Suddenly, the quality of the coffee doesn’t matter as much. Your roommates are secondary issues. The weather doesn’t really factor into your day to day decision making – because you’re on a mission. You have a job to do – and others are relying on your ability to follow through.

Here’s the deal. If you expect your life to be a cruise ship experience, you’ll get frustrated. But as soon as you understand that your life is a mission, that you have objectives you’re working towards, that you’re meant to have a specific effect on the world- then the crap weather, horrible food, and obnoxious roommates don’t matter as much.

Life’s NOT a cruise, people. It’s a battle, and you have a mission. Quit looking for your lounge chair and leap into action.

It’s all about perspective.

Joshua Gordon is, well, a renegade. He’s openly defiant of normal, boring template living – and is deeply passionate about empowering families to live their best life. Hit him up on twitter, facebook, or check out The NonConformist Family.

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4 thoughts on “Everybody Loves a Cruise

  1. Alana – like the post. There is an interesting book coming out in January called Emotional Equations by Chip Conley. As a leading hotelier in the US, Chip was looking for ways to help him deal with the recent economy and came up with the idea to try and simplify everyday emotions into equations so they felt easier to “control”. Your post reminded me of his equation Disappointment = Expectations – Reality. It is much easier to change expectation than reality!

    • Josh, thank you for your comment. The book coming out by Chip sounds intriguing! What an interesting process to convert emotions into equations. The particular equation you mentioned is one I deal with quite often – having an expectation that is not quite based in reality. I think it is great to be optimistic and have dreams, but sometimes my dreams have pretty close to zero reality to them. I’ll have to check out the book. I have a few other books I am working through/on my list right now, but this one definitely sounds like it is worth picking up!

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