Most people would rather avoid conflict than face it; Annnnnd there is a select few who enjoy it and seek it out. Not me. 🙂 I have a relationship that is causing a lot of conflict. I’m pretty sure neither of us are happy right now. I have been trying to deal with the issue by… avoiding it. Awesome, I know. Last night while hanging out with a couple girlfriends, they called me out on how I am showing up in this relationship. One of them lovingly warned, “There is some type of lesson that you need to learn here. Whether it is learning to stand up for yourself or just learning how to deal with conflict in general… If you don’t deal with it now, it will come back ten-fold the next time around.” YIKES! And she is so right. I’ve had similar conflicts in the past. I have run away from most of them. Each time they reared their nasty head, they were far worse!
I spent last night and this morning trying to explain away why I do not need to resolve it; And then I had a few revelations…
What fear are you running away from?
Imagine what freedom and movement you would experience in your life if you chose to run at that fear! Is the freedom worth losing out on?
If You Want to Walk on Water, You’ve Got to Get Out of the Boat by author John Ortberg.
I ended up having a conversation with the person later that week or the following week. Since then, it has not been tumultuous! There has been a calm and a common respect between us. We are not friends, but it is definitely no longer excruciatingly uncomfortable to be in each other’s presence. As a side note, prior to “the conversation” I was having multiple dreams about this person, for weeks on end. As soon as we had the conversation – wah-lah! The dreams stopped! Crazy how that works.