shared by Joshua Mokma
Expectations. We all have them.
What happens if you live your life out of other people’s expectations? What if everything or most of what you did was out of what others wanted you to do?
Who would you be?
I have some really bad news.
Who would you be? Probably not yourself and probably not who you were created to be.
For most of my life I have lived inside other people’s expectations for me. It has been my parents, grandparents, bosses, brothers…even my wife. I have lived a SAFE life.
The big question then is, WHO AM I?To be honest, there is a huge part of me that has no idea who I am.
I just said that.
I have no idea who I am.
This is what happens when you live the life everyone else expects you to live.
The fix is really simple. Just stop living the life everyone else wants you to live. Learn about your personality. Find things you enjoy and do them. Don’t do the things you used to do out of obligation. Let people’s criticism of you fall off your shoulders.
Easier said than done, right?
It is. And in my experience, when you start stepping into your own life, people will attack you. Especially those closest to you. They will want you to stay in the mold they set for you. They will be confused why you stopped doing what you always used to do. They will tell you that you have changed and not in a good way.
This is the cost of living YOUR life. Not everyone is going to think it is so great, but in the end it will be worth it. My hope is that at the end of my life I can look back and say “this is the life that God wanted me to live and it was good.”
If you are tired of living the life everyone else wants you to live give a shout out in the comments below and start living YOUR OWN LIFE!